Moms’ Dilemma

During the usual Hawai’i Kai visit on Monday, moms requested a visit to her banking institution. Oddly, moms only asked for balances for checking and savings account. The total amounted to $7,000 or so. Oddly, moms had made a cryptic statement last week about not knowing where the money is going.

Moms should have had about $20,000 total in both accounts. However, upon further query, the disclosure was made that the sister-in-law now has durable power-of-attorney (DPOA) over moms’ estate. From what could be gleaned through the discussion, another account has been set up at a different bank. That’s where the missing money has been deposited with the sister-in-law in control of it. Sounds real “fishy.”

What’s even worse is that the sister-in-law could deem moms incapable of independent living at any time and force subsequent incarceration at an assisted care convalescent home. Moms’ money would have to conveniently “disappear” prior to incarceration in order to avoid its forfeiture to the facility. Sadly, the latter scenario is highly probable.

As an aside, a decision has been made concerning a future event, that is, moms’ funeral. There will be no participation in or attendance at the event (whenever it occurs). The time to honor a parent or anyone else is when that person is still alive. Honoring someone posthumously is worthless.

Addendum: The ending of family obligations and the mummification of familial ties is a significant and requisite aspect of the exodus. Modern family dynamics contribute to the loss of individual freedom and universal social decay.